Hi, welcome to the boards
about your problem,
as far as i read i see that the problem is not with your computer, but more with thte AOL dialer program. One way to get this fixed is to get the most updated AOL version and then try with that, or if you are already using the latest, wait for them to release a bug fix.. eventually they will, they have to.
Although i would strongly suggest you move to another ISP other than AOL because they are one of the worst ISP's you can be with..
Good luck,
Blackwar